What Hurts the Most

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  1. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

  2. MichaelR

    MichaelR Member

    is when you burn my toast?? any particular reason for posting the lyrics to one of my most least favorite songs?
     
  3. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    Well, it looks like I've beren dumped ten days before Christmas. These things happen. Karaoke is tonight.
     
  4. Abner

    Abner Well-Known Member


    Oh man, that sucks. Sorry to hear that. If you lived around here, I would take you to this club:


    http://www.attheecho.com/

    This place kicks ass.


    Abner :)
     
  5. Abner

    Abner Well-Known Member

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  6. ssteachn

    ssteachn member

    Sorry to hear it. I hope it wasn't too serious. :(
     
  7. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    How are we defining serious?
     
  8. ssteachn

    ssteachn member

    Enough to shed a tear over.
     
  9. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    Well, I still get that deer in the headlights look when I'm around her.
     
  10. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    I saw her at karaoke and we sang a duet of "Whiskey Lullaby."
     
  11. Abner

    Abner Well-Known Member

    Does she just want to be "friends"?

    Abner
     
  12. MichaelR

    MichaelR Member

    why do i feel like i am in high school again? :)
     
  13. KYarb

    KYarb New Member

    Life is high school on loop. :)
     
  14. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    Well, unfortunately, I have once again made the darn fool mistake of posting personal details about my life on this board, thinking that I was "talking" to my friends, and forgetting that there are certain types of individuals here with whom I should not have trusted my very soul. Good-bye!
     
  15. Abner

    Abner Well-Known Member

    No mistake at all Ted. We all like and care about you. We should all care about one another. I don't think MichaelR and Kyarb were trying to be mean. I think they were just teasing you a little, thinking maybe they could cheer you up.

    I am sure you will find another girl. Most probably when you are not looking for one. You are a good man, and a nice woman will notice that.

    Keep your head up bro!

    Abner :)
     
  16. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    You know, I really wish I knew what distinction women had in mind when they say they want to be "just friends" rather than being "girlfriend and boyfriend" ... or why they would even think it possible to be just friends after being girlfriend and boyfriend. But men and women sometimes seem to inhabit such different mental worlds (or, at least, they have such different communication styles as to seem to have different mental worlds).
     
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  17. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    I don't know. I'm twenty-nine years out of high school and the young lady friend is seven years out of high school.
     
  18. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    Maybe I'm just being a bit thin-skinned. But, shortly after the break-up, I went out to my favorite saloons. My first stop was at a bar where I had known the owner (and all the bartendresses) for four years and counting. The proprietress was the first to actually listen to me when I was newly divorced, impotent, and still a virgin (Viagra didn't work worth a damn during my marriage of half a year). I made the unfortunate mistake of assuming the friendship of the bartendresses as well as the proprietress (well, some of the bartendresses there were friends, but not the one on duty that night). The young lady friend called me on my cell that night and demanded to know why I had sung Whiskey Lullaby as a solo at karaoke at a social club we both belong to. I told her that, as I had said the last time I had seen her in person, I knew she had a tendency to believe that I might be so depressed as to be suicidal (note: I do not have suicidal tendencies) and I figured that singing Whiskey Lullaby might cause her to think that I might commit suicide (I won't) or at least go get good and drunk (I only ever drink Diet Pepsi when at the bars). I admitted that it was a real a-holey thing for me to do, to be so inconsiderate. The bartendress commenced laughing like a hyena at me. Whereupon said bartendress told me I could leave the bar (note: I was this bartendress' only customer at that point in time and this bar was going to have a going out of business karaoke bash a few days later). So, I went to another bar. When I confided to a female friend about being dumped ten days before Christmas, another female interjected herself into the conversation and started yelling f this and f that about a woman whom I still care very deeply about (note: the use of the f-word by this second female disrupted a heart to heart conversation with the first female). Then, I made the darn fool mistake of telling a buddy. His solution was that I need to get laid (his solution to everything, I think). What the heck? If a friend has just had his heart ripped out and crushed on the ground, casual sex is no replacement for a genuine long-term relationship. So ...

    I sort of wonder what manner of woman would want an impotent little 47-year-old boy who hasn't so much as given a massage or performed cunnilingus (except once) in the five years since his divorce.
     
  19. Ted Heiks

    Ted Heiks Moderator and Distinguished Senior Member Staff Member

    What hurt the most was being so close and watching her walk away.
     
  20. Abner

    Abner Well-Known Member


    Hey TT,

    Don't cut yourself short. You are very well educated, and have a good sense of humor. Now on to the oral sex of part of a woman. You peformed cunnilingus once, and the woman will tell you where she likes it anyway. The lady will just like that you are spending time taking care of her needs. As far as the massage thing, all you need is some hot oil and your set. Also, remember to buy a girl flowers when she does not expect them, for no reason in other words. It is romantic, and they love it.

    As far as the impotence thing. Have you exhausted all medical reasons? You say you have tried Viagra. What about other medical conditions that can be causing the impotence? High blood pressure, extra weight and other physical conditions can manifest themselves in the form of impotence. Here is what Sensei Abner recommends. Enroll your ass in the nearest gym or Kenpo school. They will turn you into a lean, mean fighting machine. You are still young. Once you are in good physical condition, the impotence may go away. If it does not, then try a good Accupuncturist. The thing is to try everything. Remember, physical activity and conditioning helps with depression. Will it erase it? Maybe not completely, but depression in various forms is part of the human condition. I have suffered from severe bouts of depression in years past, but I had to change certain things in my life. Prayer, meditation and physical conditioning help me overcome it. Large amounts of alcohol sure as hell made it worse. Life is a state of mind my friend.

    I am sorry if I sound overly nosey. You and I have been friends a long time though. The Sensei/teacher in me makes me want to help people. It is part of my training. Start a little at a time TT. Go for a five minute walk, then the following week make it 10 minutes until you work up to an hour. If you do not want to start with a really physcial martial art, start with Tai Chi (Meditation in motion). It is very low impact,and anyone can do it. Just give it try ok? Please? You can do it Ted. I believe in you.

    Abner
     

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