What Hurts the Most

I don't have to cut myself short; I was born that way.

Well, once in the last five years. Before that, maybe about 118 times in less than half a year of marriage. Thanks for the advice.

Medical conditions that can cause impotence (that apply to me): diabetes, being over forty, prostate problems, certain types of psychiatric medications, smoking.

You're not being nosy, you're just rendering friendly advice. Thanx!

 

Anytime broheim.

Abner

 

Happpy new Year Tae all of Yoohssss XD XD

 

Sorry to hear that. Keep us updated. I agree that a fitness program is in order. Start with what you can do. If that means a ten minute walk, then so be it. I deal with depression every winter (SAD).

SAD: http://www.google.com/search?source=ig&hl=en&rlz=&=&q=seasonal+affective+disorder&btnG=Google+Search&aq=f

I have to force myself to exercise regularly and eat a healthy diet, and I sit in front of two work lights while I study.

Light Therapy: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=seasonal+affective+disorder+light+therapy&btnG=Search

Keep on keeping on, my friend!!!

 

Are there any females out there able (and willing) to answer this?

 

I don't have SAD, but whenever I do anything that requires concentration (regardless of the season), I need to have bright light, natural or artificial.

 

Not only does she want to be "just friends," now she wants me to also be friends with her new boyfriend, whom she found no more than two weeks after ripping my heart out and crushing it on the ground.

 

I admit to failing in the number one criteria needed for an authorative answer to this question. So here's my non-authorative guess.

I have a theory that "Can we just be friends?" can have different meanings, depending on the context. I don't think we should be boyfriend/girlfriend any longer. That is the common part of the potentially different meanings and the most important part of the meaning, I think I would have to say. I think it can also mean that I like you but I'm thinking that I should try to find someone new but if it doesn't work out then maybe we can get back together in the future. It can also mean something even more simple like, we shouldn't be boyfriend/girlfriend anymore but I like it when you [blank] and maybe you'd still sometimes do that if we were friends. The blank can be anything like, telling her that she's pretty, picking her up at work, sharing physical relations occasionally, keeping her company occasionally, fixing her leaky faucet, etc..

 

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I'd say this means "I'm really not into you, but I like it when you desire me and since you meet one or more of my needs in some way, I'd like to keep you hanging around (at arms length) in case I need you again...but until then, i'm dating someone else...but feel free to buy me gifts or pay my rent."

Ted, it's time to move on.

Also, I'd suggest thinking about what you bring to the table instead of what you're missing. No one is perfect, but we can all improve ourselves. If there is something you can fix (that is a rational and legitimate problem eg. a medical issue), what's the harm in working on it!?!

 

Damn!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Abner

 

Good riddance. Forgive, forget, and move forward. It is better that she did this now rather than in ten years, or if children were involved. You lucked out! Many don't. Count your blessings, and keep looking!

 

Ted, if it's any consolation, I got dumped on my 30th birthday. However, it was just three months later when I met the woman I'm now married to.

As the saying goes, this too shall pass.

 

Everything happens for a reason, you may not see the good in it now, but if you wait, you'll see. (Afaic, any woman who breaks up with someone and then wants her ex to be friends with her new one is not reasonable .)

 

Ted,

I had bad experience where I knew I was in love, got dumped right around my 22nd birthday. I was crushed!! Then, out of no where I met the real woman of my dreams and have been married for over 18 years. Everything happens for a reason...they are just not clear sometimes.

 

What she said, and. . .

Quite simply,for many women, "let's just be friends" is simple doublespeak for "I'm dumping you, I just can't say it directly." Either they're too cowardly to say it straight out, too worried about hurting your feelings, or too scared of your reaction.

Regardless of the meaning, it still sucks.

 

My hope is that for most people it's like a spiral. In some ways you're in the same place but on a (hopefully) higher level. Don't stay in High School KY. Life can be better than that.

 

OOOooo Jennifer, that's pretty cold. This girl is just so young. Do you really think she's having all those scheming thoughts?

Teddy I'd just say that it means that she likes you enough that she doesn't want to hurt you too bad. But, at the same time, she doesn't like you enough to hook up permanent. I don't know what sort of stuff might have been said before but remember that there's been many times when things have been said in a darkened room that evaporated with the rising sun. Mostly these things have been said by men. It's OK to be sad/hurt. Just don't get bitter. You know what they say...

"Sometimes you win. Sometimes you lose. Sometimes it rains."
(name the movie)

Get some sleep. It helps.

 

You have to draw the line somewhere and this sounds like the right place for that line. Move on and begin the healing process.