No. But I wish them success in their marriage and I hope he puts as much energy and effort into being a good husband as he did looking for his 15 minutes....I mean marriage proposal.
Wow, man. How about this- when it's my turn to propose, I'll make the engagement ring out of pipe cleaner and send her the message by fax. Dot matrix, of course. Does that help?
I really would not want want to put the person I loved this much on the spot in such a public way. In any substantively public way. I don't say this to judge anyone else; in particular, I know the question is often sussed out very mutually and perhaps very fully before the proposal. Two other things I've never been comfortable with!: A man asking the woman's father for her hand, and a woman's father giving her away. Would I say these are signs of patriarchy? Kind of, yeah! I'm not saying these can't be benign! I'm not saying they're harmful or that they represent subjugation or ownership of women. …They just don't fit personally for me. I know they have and will for others, including close family members and friends. One thing I'm surprised doesn't seem to have become that much more prevalent in the past generation or two: Women proposing to men. I think most recent place I encountered this as a concept was in a leap-day-themed episode of The Golden Girls. (!)
I did the simple down on one knee, present ring thing in the park near my wife's apartment on one of our evening walks. Personally, I think that was the best marriage proposal ever. Tomorrow marks 14 years of wedded bliss.
Snark for the win, I can do that too. Propose to your chick however you want. Like most timorous young men you should propose in public so she has less of a chance to say no. And forget what I said about planning and working on your actual marriage, that's for patriarchs and misogynist.
No snark, just a little baking soda for your vinegar. Since I'm an extreme misogynist, I won't even ask her. I'll forge her signature on the papers and use a set of handcuffs as her wedding ring. I'll rename her to "Woman," demand that she not speak unless spoken to, then never speak to her.
Er, in my insomniac-hour editing I somehow omitted a NOT, completely changing meaning from what I intended in my post above. Some helpful moderator, help me out? Intended: "I'm not saying they're harmful or they or that they represent subjugation or ownership of women." *embarrassment;* that was bad.
