Possible Pregnancy?

Hi everyone,

I know this is DegreeInfo; therefore, we have more male members than females. However, most of you have kids..and have more experiences. I would like ask you for your honest option to make the right decision. I have a long distance relationship. I had intercourse with my girlfriend, and 7 days later she said that she was not feeling good. So, she did the pregnancy test...and it showed "PREGNANCY" I was happy to hear the news, and talk to several friends. Some of them said that impossible...they said that it takes at least 3 to 4 weeks to show any changes. According to EPT pregnancy test tip that the earliest to test is 4 days before having period again. But that would 10 more days before 4-days prior her period again.

At that afternoon she said she has to go to the hospital due to heavily bleeding. After that I was told that she had a miscarriage. A week later, she is not feeling good again, and went to the private doctor...and said that she is pregnant. No, I did not sleep with her after the miscarriage. The hospital doctor confirmed a miscarriage. I was told by her and her brother that the private Doctor said, the hospital doctor made a mistake.

I am trying to propose her and marry her, but I am not happy if she is lying to me...or possible that the child is not mine. So, is that possible the child is mine? :thinking:

Thanks and really appreciate it!

 

The time frames you are referring to do not imply that you are the father or that she is telling the whole truth.

If a child presents itself in the next nine months I strongly suggest a paternity test be something you execute, before you sign the birth certificate as the father.

Essentially, I've seen too many fathers chosen by women of limited means based on looking at the team of men they've slept with and choosing the most affluent.

 

Tekman - Clearly this is an emotionally charged time for you and so it's doubly important not to forget to use your head.

Pregnancy test - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Everything you've been told is a story with no supporting evidence. All doctors keep records. Get them. A pregnancy. A miscarriage. A pregnancy. The second doc says the first doc was wrong...all this has medical records attached...go get them. Pay special attention to the bloodwork.

 

Proceed with caution, and insist on seeing medical records. But even then you might not always be able to authenticate them due to patient privacy laws - make sure she consents to her info being disclosed to you, and request it directly from the provider. Believe it or not, a former roommate of mine had a girlfriend fake a pregnancy. She went so far as to fake ultrasound images (which he discovered were fake through the use of the magic of google). I hope that your girlfriend is being honest with you, but from what you've stated her story does not sound credible. Best of luck.

 

If you have doubts there is something wrong...trust your gut and look deeper into this. Sucks if shes cheating on you, but your not alone, a lot of us have been there.

 

I think you need to know and have a right to know (considering your long term (?) relationship) what has happened here. But I also think that is a separate issue from your decision to marry this girl.

If you are considering marriage, I will assume you two share good, honest communication, that you know one another very well, well enough to know that you can each commit to spend the rest of your lives with the other, and that you deeply love one another... that you cherish this girl. Given that kind of relationship, you can talk with her about this.

The fact that you even think she could be lying to you says a great deal about the state of this relationship, and makes me wonder if its really ready for marriage, if you really know her well enough for that commitment. If you even think there's the possibility that she has slept with someone else, how can you, on that basis, even be considering marriage?

Lots for you to figure out here, tekman. I am so sorry for your troubles....

p.s.
...the most sensitive urine tests usually detect hCG shortly after implantation, which can occur anywhere from 6 to 12 days after ovulation. ...False positive test results may occur for several reasons. These include: errors of test application, use of drugs containing the assay molecule, and non-pregnant production of the assay molecule.
Spurious evaporation lines may appear on many home pregnancy tests if read after the suggested 3–5 minute window or reaction time, independent of an actual pregnancy. False positives may also appear on tests used past their expiration date.

... 25% of all pregnancies unfortunately end in miscarriage and many of these being very early pregnancies. If you use a very sensitive pregnancy test, where you test before the day your period is due, you could catch an early pregnancy but end up going on to have your period anyway due to a very early miscarriage.

...A urine early pregnancy test works by measuring the amount of hCG (pregnancy hormone) in your urine. Typically you need to have missed your period for these to be accurate, particularly a positive result.

 

Thanks all for the replies. I actually have the answer. I brought it up to her about the whole medical theory that impossible. Yup, it went to ugly for a moment, but didn't see her getting mad. She didn't want to talk to me for about an hour.

She said that she did have a miscarriage. But her brother wanted to test me to ensure that I am not type of guy run away if he hears his girlfriend is pregnant. The reality that she is not pregnant at this time. Her brother just made up the story, and told her to lie to me for testing purposes. I told her that no matter what I still love and want to marry her even though that pregnancy is not my kid; however, I want to know the truth.

Because her previous relationship was a mess, the guy told her to do abortion. And she chose not to...and they broke up. Then he tried to get back with her, but told her to give up the baby for adoption. Her brother does not want to see that again. Therefore, he ensure that I love her no matter what.

Well, at least where it ends now. :laugh:

 

I'd have to question her marriage potential still for having listened to such moronic advice from her obvious dipshit of a brother. This is the kind of crap you see in lifetime movies, not in real life.

 

This is a condom:



Now that you know what one looks like, USE THE DAMN THING!

Also, the next chance you get, you need to kick your girlfriend's brother in the balls. With that kind of idea coming out of his head, the breeding potential of the whole damn family needs to be limited as much as possible.

 

I agree. Tekman, tread carefully. You don't want to get into the situation where her family influences what should be between a man and woman. The lines have to be drawn VERY carefully.

What the brother put her up to is just not cool.

Abner :smile:

 

I'm also struck by her willingness to lie to you, her need to "test" you....
Doesn't bode well, to my way of thinking.

 

Not cool at all. I would probably break up with her over that, if I were in TEKMAN's shoes. At the very least, I would have a very serious conversation.

Of course, he could always just say that she should go to the doctor to get tested for herpes or something. You know...just to test her reaction.

 

Something isn't adding up IMO. When evaluating a situation involving people, there is always two sides to every story, and the truth is always somewhere in between. I'd say go with your gut. Just by posting these concerns shows that your gut is trying to tell you something, if I was you, I would start listening and stop trying to justify the situation.

To put this in grunt speak, "If you put sugar on shite, all you have is sugary shite."

 

WTF, Devil Dog!? Drop her like an Okinawan hooker, poste haste! Of course she is shit-testing you. DO NOT FALL FOR THIS. Do not. You are a smart successful dude (probably ugly since you were a Marine, but being a Marine more than makes up for it) you'll find another lady. Hopefully one that won't try to play merri-go-round with peckers and then try to find an ASS to pin the child support and alimony tail on. Drop it. NOW.

It takes a Marine to tell it like it is.

 

You don't have a legal right to her medical records.

 

Maybe not a legal right but if she refused wouldn't that, under these circumstances, suggest a lot about what's really going on?
All I'm trying to say is that this is what they mean when they say "Sometimes love just isn't enough."

 

But he does have the right to have the child's DNA tested against his.

 

I think that if she sued him for child support he could contend that the child was not his and the court could order a DNA test to resolve that question. Beyond that sort of development I don't think that you can force someone to give up a DNA sample against their will.