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    Mother's fury as son returns home from school with bad report stapled to his shirt

    This is a great story. The parent is mad because the student was talking in class so the teacher stapled a “disciplinary note” to his shirt to be sure the mother gets it. Now the mother is mad because her son (the student) was embarrassed. Maybe I am just a cold, rotten person but I think this is great. Maybe this will stop him from disrupting the class in the future. I think that as a society we have taken away a valuable lesson from children: actions have consequences.

    Question to all you grade school and high school teachers – is this over the line?

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    As a parent of elementary school children, I would not be happy if one of my boys came home with a note stapled to his shirt. However, if I was asking for progress reports and wasn't getting them, as a parent, I would have checked with the school to find out why before it got to this point.

    Our kids bring home folders which need to be signed every night. There are no surprises and it is a simple way for the teachers and parents to correspond with each other.

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    No it's not over the line.

    1. The kid is not traumatized any more than any other kid is by one incident of being laughed at.

    2. The parents not being amused has more to do with their embarrassment than anything else. If my kid had one of these on him I'd be all over him, not the teacher . I'd also expect that the kids would be talking and the parents in my community would wonder how I'm parenting "the bad kid".

    3. Taking it to the press doesn't traumatize the kid? People know what went down and the people in his immediate community won't be fooled by the face blur as the mom seems more than happy to get the attention.

    Come on. Take it like adults and don't groom your kid to be a bigger problem than he already is by setting a bad example.

    What's going to happen when he gets into a real scrape? Gonna call the Coast Guard?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Randell1234 View Post
    This is a great story. The parent is mad because the student was talking in class so the teacher stapled a “disciplinary note” to his shirt to be sure the mother gets it. Now the mother is mad because her son (the student) was embarrassed. Maybe I am just a cold, rotten person but I think this is great. Maybe this will stop him from disrupting the class in the future. I think that as a society we have taken away a valuable lesson from children: actions have consequences.

    Question to all you grade school and high school teachers – is this over the line?

    Mother's fury as school staples bad report to son's shirt | Mail Online
    Dang, I didn't know this would happen. Now I'm sorry I stapled the note to his shirt...I should have stapled it to his head.
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    If my child came home from school with a report card that said not only were his grades bad, but that he was a disruption in class, having something stapled to their shirt would be the LAST thing they would need to worry about.

    I call this the "My Little Angel Syndrome"....I'm so damn sick of parents who want to blame everyone for their child's bad behavior except the person whose fault it really is....themself.
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    Huh? This used to happen to me all of the time. Seriously, at least twice a week a note stapled to my shirt. I don't see why this is such a big deal? I'd be most upset, if at all, at the potential damage done to the shirt.
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    By the way, yes, that means that I was a problem child.
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    Quote Originally Posted by ITJD View Post
    What's going to happen when he gets into a real scrape? Gonna call the Coast Guard?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bruce View Post
    If my child came home from school with a report card that said not only were his grades bad, but that he was a disruption in class, having something stapled to their shirt would be the LAST thing they would need to worry about.

    I call this the "My Little Angel Syndrome"....I'm so damn sick of parents who want to blame everyone for their child's bad behavior except the person whose fault it really is....themself.
    The only thing that would make this even better if it happen in English Lit class during the reading of The Scarlet Letter

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    Quote Originally Posted by Randell1234 View Post
    This is a great story. The parent is mad because the student was talking in class so the teacher stapled a “disciplinary note” to his shirt to be sure the mother gets it. Now the mother is mad because her son (the student) was embarrassed. Maybe I am just a cold, rotten person but I think this is great. Maybe this will stop him from disrupting the class in the future. I think that as a society we have taken away a valuable lesson from children: actions have consequences.

    Question to all you grade school and high school teachers – is this over the line?

    Mother's fury as school staples bad report to son's shirt | Mail Online

    LOL Old and cold right there with ya. Besides, if the lad can't figure out how to remove a stapled note from his shirt.....well.....
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    My kindergartner came home with a note stuck to him as a sticker. All the young kids that day did. I thought it was a great way of ensuring I actually saw it. But if he did something wrong behaviorally, I'd expect them to tell me in person when I came to pick him up, or send a note home requiring my signature.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Maniac Craniac View Post
    By the way, yes, that means that I was a problem child.
    It's official!!....cat is now really out of the bag.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SteveFoerster View Post
    But if he did something wrong behaviorally, I'd expect them to tell me in person when I came to pick him up, or send a note home requiring my signature.

    -=Steve=-
    This works great with high school kids writing something they know better than to write. I tell them to take it home and get their parents to sign it and return it to me tomorrow. Problem solved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cookderosa View Post
    Besides, if the lad can't figure out how to remove a stapled note from his shirt.....well.....
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    Perhaps I'm just too sensitive, but I think it was a bit out of line. You pick up the phone. That's why we have them. Notes home aren't guaranteed to get home. Furthermore, telling the school that the student's work quality is poor is a bit of an ethical violation. Each kid has their issues. Perhaps the student isn't a good reader. Embarassing him isn't going to help him gain confidence.

    Teachers need to be more open to communication. While I agree with the mom that she should've been called, it's a bit absurd to blow this out of proportion. If the kid IS a discipline problem (and he probably is, because what kid these days isn't...) she should've been involved in the school already.

    Here's the thing I dislike. Teachers shouldn't have to go to parents. As a parent, YOU should WANT to know how your child is doing in school. YOU should be calling the teachers . YOU should be coming to conference nights. YOU should be talking to your child about school. YOU should be taking some responsibility.

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    yes, definitely over the line

    didn't read the article, but did the teacher called the parents in the past and got no answer ?
    did the teacher send notes home before and never got a response ?

    you don't touch my kid, and you don't mark, cut up or punch holes in their clothes, not even tiny unnoticeable holes
    if a teacher did that to my kid, I'd staple a letter of complaint to their clothes and see how they like it
    I'm sure the teacher would call the cops if I did something like that to them

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